What to ask someone who has lived in more than one country
Ask what ordinary thing they had to learn again after moving: where to get a haircut, how to invite someone over or what to do on a Sunday.
Make space for more than one language in a callStart with an ordinary moment
Try “What took you a while to work out at the grocery store?” They can tell a funny story without explaining why they moved or how they came to be there. Offer a moment when you felt new somewhere, even if it was in the same city.
Follow what changed in both directions
Ask what habit they took back on a visit and what they stopped doing. If they mention switching languages for a feeling or subject, ask what felt easier to say. If the move is personal, shift to a routine they’re happy to share.