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Cultural exchange questions that lead to real stories

Ask about a moment your partner remembers. “When did you last cook something for other people?” gives them a place to start and gives you a story to share in return.

Choose how to set up the exchange

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Three questions you can both answer

  • What was a small rule in your home growing up? Ask when they first noticed another household did it differently.
  • What has changed on a street you know well? Ask which change affected their own routine.
  • What would you be reluctant to throw away when you move? Ask who or what the object reminds them of.

Follow their lead

If they tell you about a family rule, ask whether they still follow it. If they tell you about a place, ask what they remember hearing or smelling there.

Trade stories on one theme before trying a new question. If the topic turns personal, let either person choose something else without explaining why.

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