How to have a meaningful conversation with someone new
Ask a question that is easy to answer honestly. “What have you made time for this week?” leaves more room than “Tell me something deep about yourself,” and the person gets to choose what to share.
Plan a first cultural exchangeListen for a detail you can follow
If someone says they spent Sunday repairing a bike, follow the bike. Ask what broke or who taught them to fix it. Share a short story that connects once they’ve finished.
If you notice you’ve asked three questions in a row, tell them a little about yourself and see where they take it.
Make it easy to pass
If they answer briefly or change the subject, go with the change. An enjoyable first call can stay on music or a favorite meal the whole time.
Choose what personal information you share. If the call leaves you feeling pressured or uncomfortable, you can leave. Check the service’s reporting options before you meet.